Validation

We all look for validation of some sort. Validation from our parents, friends, spouses, children. I feel like it is almost impossible to live in this world, detached from the feelings of others. In theory, it should be possible. That is what the realised souls, saints and spiritual leaders tell us. They tell us to be content with ourselves. Validation in reality comes from ego. It comes from the fact that we associate ourselves with what we do and who we have become. In art, it comes from a place of wanting to be recognised for our work. We have all felt this way as artists. We want people to validate our work. We feel happy when our art is recognised. We feel affronted when our work is criticised and judged, we are threatened by derogatory comments. We often begin to think of what people will want even before we begin our work. I wonder sometimes if it is ego at play that makes us feel the need to please.

I have consciously tried to let go of these feelings. I still feel happy when people appreciate my dance. I feel like I have shared something of value to me. I however, have slowly tried to let go of the need for validation. It is almost impossible! Let me say that. We are faced with it everyday. In every aspect of life! “Like” or “dislike” , “number of views”, etc. It is present in front of us like a never ending array of comments, quotes, appreciative messages or critical articles. Especially as a performer, where our lives are on display, it is difficult to get away from this.

I want to reach my art to people. I want audiences to share in my journey, experience and empathise with the characters and stories I portray. But at the same time, I do not want validation to dictate the content of my art, my thoughts.

I feel like this is very important to recognise this as an artist. It has made a world of difference to me and I can feel my dance growing stronger and more layered as IA�allow this idea to enter my dancing, choreography and creative process.